New Year, Same Me: Why You Should Ditch the New Year's Resolution

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Here's a fact for you.

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About 10% of the people who make new year's resolutions successfully

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implement lasting change.

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The other 90% fail.

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So why do we keep doing this to ourselves year after year?

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Why do we tell ourselves that we need a resolution?

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Just because of the calendar moved up one more number.

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Welcome to episode 72 of this shit works.

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I'm your host, Julie Brown.

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And today I'm discussing why we need to abandon the practice of

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making new year's resolutions.

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I'm sorry to break it to you.

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But the 1st of January doesn't hold any mystical or magical power that will

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help you facilitate change in your life.

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It's just another day on the calendar.

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If there was something that you really wanted to change or do differently.

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And it was June.

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Would you wait until January 1st to do it?

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No.

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You do it in June.

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But somehow the beginning of a new trip around the sun always makes us feel like

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we have to come up with some big change.

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And that's the first problem of resolutions.

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They are usually way too big and not subdivided into

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manageable and achievable goals.

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This is why they fail because they are too big and undefined.

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I'm not the only one who says that.

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Psychotherapists Jonathan Alpert, author of be fearless.

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Change your life in 28 days broke down three of the biggest reasons

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people fail to complete their new year's resolutions each year.

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The first.

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Your resolution isn't specific enough.

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For example.

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I want to run a marathon.

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Okay.

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Great.

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Then.

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What marathon.

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What is the date?

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Now make and commit to a training schedule and moving back from that date.

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Bulls that are detailed and specific are harder to ignore

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than broad sweeping goals.

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Too.

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You weren't framing your resolutions positively.

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so much of how we talk to ourselves impacts our actions and our behaviors.

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Albert says, so try to frame the resolution in a positive way

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and not use negative language when describing your new goal.

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Three.

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Your resolution isn't actually for you.

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Your goal needs to be made by and for you.

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Not influenced by your friends or your family.

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And what they see or you see in society and on social media.

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What if we didn't make a resolution.

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But instead at the end of every year, took a moment to look back

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and acknowledge all the things that we accomplished the previous year.

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How much work we put into it.

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The really hard times to be got through the great things that, happened, and the

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happiness that we shared with others.

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That's what I'm going to do this year.

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Now don't get me wrong.

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I have goals for 20, 22, but none of them involve changing who I am or

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beating myself up for who I'm not.

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Well, this episode is short and sweet because we're already

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at the cocktail of the week.

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And it's the cure boreal.

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It's just creamed.

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Cassie's black, current liquor., and that goes with champagne, like

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tomatoes and basil and peaches and cream, peanut butter and jelly.

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Peas and carrots.

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So, all you're going to do is take a champagne flute.

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Put a little bit of Kira Royal on the bottom and then fill

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it with your favorite bubbles.

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And then you've got this sophisticated champagne cocktail.

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Perfect for celebrations of all kinds, especially like the kind where you say.

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I'm good.

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Just the way I am.

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All right friends.

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Happy new year.

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I'll see you in 2022.