Thank You for Being a Friend: Life Lessons from the Golden Girls

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Thank you for being a friend capital down the road and back again.

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Your heart is true.

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You're a pal and a confidant.

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Before there was Kerry Samantha, Charlotte.

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And Miranda.

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There was blanche rose, Dorothy, and Sophia.

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Welcome to episode 75 of this shit works.

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I am your host, Julie Brown.

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And today.

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We are discussing life lessons from the golden girls.

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Let me tell you a story.

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Picture it Sicily.

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That was how every Sophia story started.

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I was nine years old when the golden girls premiered in 1985.

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The show revolved around four older single women, three widows, and one divorce.

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Say all sharing a house in Miami.

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I was immediately taken with these ladies.

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You see.

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When I was nine years old, I was living most of the time at my Nana's house.

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And during that first season of the show, like the three characters,

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my Nana would also become a widow.

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The show lasted seven seasons.

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And I have watched each of the hundred and 80 episodes multiple times.

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The show is genius.

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And dare I say that I learned a lot about sarcasm and comedic timing from this show.

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Especially from Dorothy's character.

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But the show is deep.

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And it has a number of life lessons that we can take from it.

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Here are just some of the lessons from those four golden girls.

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One never be afraid to give your friends your honest opinion.

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These ladies never shied away from telling each other exactly what was on

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their minds and in their hearts from small stuff to big from wardrobe advice,

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all the way to relationship advice.

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Start getting in the habit of telling your friends how you really feel.

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If he can't speak to your friends, honestly, then who can you, your

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friends will still be there for you even when you were honest with them.

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And maybe because you're honest with them.

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Too.

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The older you get the better you get, unless you're a banana.

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These ladies were fierce.

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They were still living life to the fullest and each and every day, give them new

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learning experiences and added knowledge.

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And I just absolutely loved that.

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Three.

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Differences are a good thing.

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These four ladies could not have been more different from each other, but

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they didn't try to change each other.

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They understood that diversity of thought.

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Backgrounds reactions and even emotions made the group better.

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For.

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Be confident.

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One day.

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I want to walk into a room with as much confidence as blanche Devereaux walks

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everywhere with that woman is unapologetic about how amazing she thinks she is.

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There's one scene where she comes out of her bedroom in a green dress

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and tells the ladies that this is the dress that's going to stop traffic.

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Yes, girl.

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Imagine if you could walk into every room, whether that be a conference

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room, a boardroom or a bedroom with that level of self-confidence.

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Five.

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Laughter is necessary in good times.

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It's great.

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But in bad times, it's an absolute necessity.

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Six.

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Have your friends back.

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There was a scene in one of the episodes where Dorothy Rose and

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blanche find themselves in prison cell with a number of other women.

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They were in that prison cell because they were arrested for prostitution,

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but that's a whole different story.

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When one of the women in this cell starts threatening rose and blanche, Dorothy

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steps up to the plate to fend them saying, if you want to fight with someone, you

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fight with me, but I'm warning you.

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I spent time in Attica.

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Attica is a men's prison.

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The woman says, I know, says Dorothy, I was there a year before they found out.

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I want Dorothy in my corner all the time, but I also want to

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be a Dorothy for my friends.

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Seven.

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Gather around the table.

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Cheesecake optional in good times and bad.

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These women gathered around that kitchen table and talk to each other.

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When the times were really bad, they cheesecake while they talked.

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Ask for advice when you need it.

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Ask for help when you need it.

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Offer it to your friends when they need it.

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Gather together to work through life's problems.

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And lastly.

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Friendship is one of life's greatest gifts.

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We need friends to travel this road with this.

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They make the good times better.

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And when the road gets difficult, they help us through the bad

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times because like Sophia said.

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Fasten your seatbelts slut puppy.

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This ain't going to be a cakewalk.

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I know there are many more, but these are the ones that resonated with me this week.

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Let me know if you have any life lessons you've learned from the four golden girls.

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This week, the drink of the week is called zinger named after

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and inspired by golden girl.

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Dorothy's born AQ.

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Here's what you're going to need.

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First.

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You're going to have to make a ginger syrup and it's super easy.

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All you're going to do is combine equal parts, water and sugar.

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I usually use a fourth of a cup of water and a fourth of a cup of

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sugar, and then two inches of peeled ginger sliced, and you put that all

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in a saucepan overload heat, and you heat it until the sugar dissolves.

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And then you take it off of the heat and you allow it to steep for 15 minutes

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and then you strain out the ginger.

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So now you've got your ginger syrup and for the cocktail, what you're going

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to do, just two ounces of whiskey.

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A half ounce of that ginger syrup, a half ounce of fresh lime juice, ginger

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beer, and then lime wedges for garnish.

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Fill a tall glass with ice and then add the whiskey syrup lime juice and stir.

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And then top it with a ginger beer and garnish with that wedge of lime.

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That's it guys.

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And until next week.